Last year I was dating a guy who was clearly into it with me. I liked him as well but played it cool to avoid scaring him off. Sadly, I played it too cool and he ended things ( I now find out that it was because he sincerely thought I wasn’t interested). I contacted him with a simple hello which grew into a e-conversation about how he had thought this about me/us. I went on to say that should his circumstances change it wouldn’t have to be unfair. His response…I agree.

He said many things, including he wasn’t disappointed to hear from me, he is dating someone “albeit long distance”, it’s a pity our special chemistry wasn’t further explored, asked if I was with someone special and told me, “sigh, this is so unfair” as he accused me of flirting when I told him the person he’s dating is a lucky girl. I went on to say that should his circumstances change it wouldn’t have to be unfair. If you have any insight Terry I’d love to hear it.

I wouldn’t contact him again because you’ve already made your case. He seems interested, but he’s dating someone else. At this point, your best bet is to let things lie. He may decide that he prefers you to the long-distance girlfriend, or he may not. Give him time to figure it out. But if they do — if he realizes that the long-distance relationship pales in comparison to the one he might have with you, don’t play it cool. Welcome him with open arms. His response…I agree.

But if they do — if he realizes that the long-distance relationship pales in comparison to the one he might have with you, don’t play it cool. Welcome him with open arms. I wouldn’t contact him again because you’ve already made your case. He seems interested, but he’s dating someone else. At this point, your best bet is to let things lie. He may decide that he prefers you to the long-distance girlfriend, or he may not. Give him time to figure it out. His response…I agree.